Lockdown and Survivors

      When thinking about CSE (childhood sexual exploitation), it’s not hard to think of that cliched image of a young woman or girl handcuffed, tears streaming down her face and clearly trapped in a life of pain and suffering, and while this metaphor leaves me cringing and gritting my teeth, I cannot argue […]

The Pulled Punches of an Historic Rape.

This is going to be a very personal blog, and as such, it comes with a strong trigger warning.  The term ‘historic abuse’ always sat funny with me. I first heard it when I called my local police station to enquire about making a statement. I had been put through to the chief officer of […]

Four types of responses you receive when you speak from lived-experience.

Have you ever been to a conference or training day and listened to a trauma survivor speak from lived experience? (The chances are you have, REIGN were the speakers, and that’s how you’re reading this blog now. – Hello! Thanks for staying in touch.) The ‘lived-experience slot’ is a feature of many large and small […]

When an abuser dies

It can be a very stressful and disorientating time for survivors when their abuser dies. Whatever the circumstances surrounding the death, be it a pedophile grandfather finally passing from old age, or a mysterious apparent suicide in jail right before a high profile trial, it’s not likely to be easy on the victims they left […]

What Survivors Taught Me

Sometimes talking to another survivor for 10 minutes can do you more good than sitting through ten months of therapy.  I mean no disrespect to the counsellors I have worked with in my life, I’m grateful to the good ones, (not so much the shit ones). However, in the spirit of congruence, I’m here to […]